Life with Maggie, Before College Algebra

Life with Maggie, Before College Algebra

A determined mother shares her frustrations as she fights for her daughter’s right to earn her college degree. Life with Maggie, before college algebra, was one of remarkable focus and perseverance, because she is on the autism spectrum. Maggie is a mixed media artist from Gulfport, Mississippi, who uses the power of creativity to bring

Mom Helps Autistic Son Discover Joy of Writing

Mom Helps Autistic Son Discover Joy of Writing

Find out how a determined mom helped her book-loving son with autism learn to write. My son, Antariksh, is on the autism spectrum and was diagnosed with spastic cerebral palsy at the age of four. He is one of my twins. After birth all his milestones were late—in fact, very late, since the children were

Pop Band Formed by ASD Boy During Lockdown

Pop Band Formed by ASD Boy During Lockdown

Hello, I’m Karla and my partner is John. We’re the parents of Johnson Harris-Herbert, aka ‘bouba’, aged 12, Kale Harris-Herbert, aka ‘woo’, aged 10, and our little girl Indiana Harris-Herbert, aka ‘boo-lash’, aged six. During the COVID-19 lockdown, Kale who has asperger’s got together a pop band with his younger sister and older brother, turning

A Homegrown Superhero

A Homegrown Superhero

If you researched the definition for the word “superhero,” you would find many explanations ranging from fictional to non-fictional characters. My personal definition would include the non-fictional characters. My husband would top that list for many reasons, but the two superheroes I would like to share with you today are my two sons. My son

Cornflour Boy: Parenting Pathological Demand Avoidance

Cornflour Boy: Parenting Pathological Demand Avoidance

Punch cornflour, and you’ll bruise yourself. If you jump on it, it’ll take your weight. Stand still, and you sink. Run your fingers through it gently, it wraps around you like liquid. Like my cornflour boy, the more force you apply, the more resistance you meet. To find its softness and fluidity, move slowly, go

The Importance of Parents’ Voices in the Autism Discussion

When a child is diagnosed with autism, parents often feel a wide range of emotions from relief to despair and everything in between. These are all normal. Learning your child will struggle his/her entire life to do things most people take for granted is not only frightening, but heartbreaking. As parents, we want to see

Getting Away from the Comfort Zone

I am not just a mom; I am an autism mom. Of my three children, two of them have autism spectrum disorder (ASD). One of them also has a mild intellectual disability. All my children are adults now, but my two with ASD continue to live with me. My life experiences have thus led me

Safety and ASD

Safety and ASD: Locked Down Like Fort Knox

How many locks can one household hold? The answer for my household would take too many fingers and toes! I can say now after spending years working with locks of all sorts that I used to underestimate a lock’s ability. I would look at the basic use of a lock and my mind would stop

Understanding Perspective with ASD

Understanding Perspective with ASD: The Sally Anne Test

Suppose there are two women, one named Sally and one named Anne. Sally puts a rock in a basket of hers and goes off somewhere else, leaving the basket. While she’s gone, Anne opens her basket, takes the rock out and puts it in her own box. In this presentation, it’s very clear Sally did

Finding Joy and Humor in Raising A Child On The Spectrum https://www.autismparentingmagazine.com/joy-and-humor-raising-spectrum/

Finding Joy and Humor in Raising A Child On The Spectrum

Raising a child on the spectrum is not easy. It comes with higher demands of care and time than other children. Believe me, I know! I have four children ranging in ages from eight to 17. My youngest daughter has PDD, Pervasive Developmental Disorder, a moderate form of Autism. She is higher functioning and very

Being Brave With Autism https://www.autismparentingmagazine.com/being-brave-with-autism/

Being Brave With Autism

Bravery is one of the most powerful qualities you can instill in your child with autism. The moment you hear that your child has autism, you want to be brave, and you want your child to be brave enough to power through obstacles, too. Developing bravery in your child with autism is easier said than

A Parent's Love Knows No Bounds https://www.autismparentingmagazine.com/parents-love-knows-no-bounds/

A Parent’s Love Knows No Bounds

A parent’s love is a special love. It is not about approval or accomplishment. It is about unconditional support and concern. It’s a love born in joy, nurtured during adversity and reconfirmed on a daily and hourly basis. It’s a love bound up in anxiety and expectation. Often worry and concern can creep in as

When Protecting Your Child With Autism Is Misunderstood https://www.autismparentingmagazine.com/when-protecting-child-autism-misunderstood/

When Protecting Your Child With Autism Is Misunderstood

It seems that we as parents of complex children are judged at every turn. But there is no judgment more supreme or detrimental as a letter from Children and Youth Services—a letter detailing you are under investigation by the government because someone in the world, as an outsider looking in, has viewed your parenting in

How Netflix's Atypical Raises Awareness On The Different https://www.autismparentingmagazine.com/how-netflixs-atypical-raises-awareness/

How Netflix’s Atypical Raises Awareness On The Different

Netflix released Season Two of Atypical in September 2018, and soon there will be Season Three. I really hope this TV series will continue for many more seasons. I have been following it since the first season and I believe that there are social dimensions that should not be absorbed by the comical element of

This Is My House: Why I Placed My Son With Autism in a Group Home https://www.autismparentingmagazine.com/autism-in-a-group-home/

Why I Placed My Son With Autism in a Group Home

All parents schedule their kid’s departure from their home to be around the age of 18 years. I often joke that my twins have an 18-year contract in my house and then they get the boot. So it is hard to put into words how that deadline got moved up by 12 years for my

Is Autism Really Underestimated in Women? https://www.autismparentingmagazine.com/autism-really-underestimated-in-women/

Is Autism Really Underestimated in Women?

Girls With Autism Flying Under the Radar proclaims one headline. For many years, it’s been accepted the wisdom that there’s an approximately 4:1 ratio of autistic men to autistic women. Recently, self-advocates, scientists, and clinicians have challenged this long-accepted ratio. They claim autism presents differently in girls. As a male on the autism spectrum, I

Developing Life Skills With Autism-One Pizza Order at a Time https://www.autismparentingmagazine.com/developing-life-skills-with-autism/

Developing Life Skills With Autism: One Pizza Order at a Time

Friday night was pizza night. This tradition began when Dylan was in middle school and the increased social pressures and new academic pressures conspired to totally “unglue” him. By Friday, he was an exhausted wreck, and frankly, so was I. Middle school is difficult for most children. It was close to unbearable for Dylan.  It

Life With ASD: Hurry Up and Slow Down Already https://www.autismparentingmagazine.com/ups-and-down-of-autism/

Life With ASD: Hurry Up and Slow Down Already

There is a steady slowdown of cars in front of us on our way to a swim meet. My son, who was diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder (ASD) at an early age, starts to show his agitation. Anxiety violently announces itself in the form of rapid-fire questions. “Why are we stopping?” “How long is this

What I Wish People Understood About Autism https://www.autismparentingmagazine.comwishing-people-to-understand-autism/

What I Wish People Understood About Autism

Growing up, I always knew he was different, different from other people around us. But I still could never understand why, why him? When we went out in public, people would just stare at us for such long periods of time it was almost uncomfortable—it was as though they were judging us and him just

A Teacher's View: The Beauty of Autism https://www.autismparentingmagazine.com/the-beautiful-view-of-autism/

A Teacher’s View: The Beauty of Autism

In my experience, people with autism always have things that are priorities to them. Priorities can mean many different things. It could be a highly specific topic of conversation they wish to discuss, a tangible item that is particularly important to them, or maybe it’s an activity they wish to engage in without interruption. People

A Loving Mother Shares: The Blessings of Autism https://www.autismparentingmagazine.com/loving-mother-shares-the-blessings-of-autism

A Loving Mother Shares: The Blessings of Autism

Blessings? Most people would not use that word when they think of autism. I probably wouldn’t have either until I had a child on the spectrum, but it is true. When my daughter was a toddler, I was always so impressed by how smart she was. She could line things up by colors and shapes

Inspiring Boy "Breaks" Through Autism and its Stereotypes https://www.autismparentingmagazine.com/breaking-through-autism-stereotypes

Inspiring Boy “Breaks” Through Autism and its Stereotypes

As a parent of a child diagnosed on the autism spectrum, I can certainly relate to those instant pangs of fear one immediately begins to digest when the word “autistic” is thrown at you. Will he ever be able to hold down a job? Will he ever be able to find his soul mate and

The New Rule - A Short Story https://www.autismparentingmagazine.com/autism-short-story/

The New Rule – A Short Story

Aaron was not happy. Wednesday night was youth activity night, and since Leia was away at an all-girls camping trip, it was just him. The boys were meeting at Nate’s house for a pool party which meant being shirtless. Worse, his parents had decided they were going to walk there. Aaron didn’t mind walking, and

Seeing Autism Through My Child’s Eyes https://www.autismparentingmagazine.com/seeing-autism-through-eyes

Seeing Autism Through My Child’s Eyes

It was the fall of 2016. Our dew covered lawn provided safe harbor for a few of the bubbles that had landed rather gently. Beginning to realize my son’s condition, I watched as he stopped popping the bubbles, and gently squatted alongside to gaze within the sparkling spheres. At about 16 months, he lost his

A Letter of Understanding and Unconditional Love https://www.autismparentingmagazine.com/letter-understanding-unconditional-love

A Letter of Understanding and Unconditional Love

This letter is addressed to anyone who loves a person on the autism spectrum disorder (ASD) or wants a better understanding. Eight doctors, blood work, and a brain scan later, no one could clearly explain autism or tell us why it happened to our son. Our hope is that this letter helps to lift fears,

Top 8 Things I Wish Schools Understood About Autism https://www.autismparentingmagazine.com/things-i-wish-school-understood-about-autism

Top 8 Things I Wish Schools Understood About Autism

No two children with autism spectrum disorder (ASD) are the same, nor do they have the same experiences. Just because one child with autism breaks a pen or tears up a workbook when he/she is anxious at school, doesn’t mean that every child on the spectrum reacts in the same way in an environment that

A Letter of Encouragement Inspires Special Needs Families https://www.autismparentingmagazine.com/letter-inspires-special-needs-families

A Letter of Encouragement Inspires Special Needs Families

When Ewa Omahen met a woman at work who was in a state of despair over her son’s disabilities, she chose to reach out. As a mother of a 15-year-old son with autism, Ewa well understood the challenges that go hand-in-hand with raising children with special needs. Take a look at the touching letter Ewa wrote encouraging

Why Can't We Talk About Autism in the Asian-American Community? https://www.autismparentingmagazine.com/autism-asian-american-community

Why Can’t We Talk About Autism in the Asian-American Community?

Growing up in a fairly strict and conservative first-generation Korean home in the United States, we were taught we shouldn’t discuss any of our issues outside the home. We are a culture that feels we must suffer in silence, for it is disgraceful to be so open about our challenges in public. Unfortunately, this is the mindset of the

Raising a Creative Genius on the Autism Spectrum https://www.autismparentingmagazine.com/raising-creative-genius-child

Raising a Creative Genius on the Autism Spectrum

My son, Colin, blows me away every day.  He is 28 years old and was diagnosed with Asperger’s syndrome at a young age—back when the relatively unknown syndrome was still stuck in a cul-de-sac of uncertainty.  Now, Asperger’s syndrome is everywhere—in mainstream TV, movies, comic books, and scores of blogs and websites. We spent Colin’s

The Remarkable Day Daphne Met the 'Doctor' https://www.autismparentingmagazine.com/day-daphne-met-the-doctor

The Remarkable Day Daphne Met the ‘Doctor’

“We are all stories in the end. Just make it a good one.” – Doctor Who, BBC Network One evening, all snuggled up and ready for bed, my daughter Daphne and I were channel-surfing and landed on the BBC network. The “Blink” episode of Doctor Who, starring David Tennant as the Doctor, was showing. We were