My six-year-old son has autism and refuses to drink from anything other than his bottle. He has tried a sippy cup a few times but just won’t give up the bottle. What can I do?
Inflexibility and difficulty with change is SO common in kids with autism. They like things the way they’re used to them and shifting anything about their routine can throw everything into disarray! I have faced this issue with many clients. Whether it’s going from a bottle to a sippy cup, a sippy cup to a straw, a straw to an open cup, or even from one favorite cup to a variety of cups, change is hard! Here are some ways you can promote drinking from a sippy cup or a regular cup:
1. Put your child’s favorite drink into the sippy cup and put a non-preferred drink in the bottle.
For your son this may look like putting milk into the cup and water or a bitter juice into the bottle. Doing this will help pair the new cup with an old, familiar favorite. At the same time, it will make his bottle less appealing to him. This technique helps make the sippy cup more interesting and attractive while making the bottle less enticing.
2. Reward drinking from the new cup.
Just like teaching any other new skill you can reward your son for using his cup by giving a treat, affection, praise, toy, or whatever it may be that motivates him. Start with a small expectation like just putting his lips to the cup. If he doesn’t actually drink, that’s okay, reward him anyways. Immediately give him whatever it is you’ve decided on. Once he’s okay with that you can make it a little harder such as trying to take at least five sips.
Again, if he doesn’t actually drink, that’s OK. Reward him anyways. Eventually the goal would be to get him to take a real sip and earn a mega, massive, huge reward from you. Maybe it’s his favorite candy. Maybe it’s the iPhone. Whatever the reward, make it something special that he doesn’t get regularly and give it to him right away.
3. Get rid of all the bottles.
You may not like this idea, but hear me out. As long as bottles are an option for him he will likely never choose a cup. Think about it: why would he out-of-the-blue choose a cup when all his life bottles have worked just fine? He is not going to suddenly change his mind. By just taking the bottles away as an option you are giving him no other choice but to learn the cup. It may be hard at first, and there may be a few days of tears and meltdowns, but I promise you he will eventually learn to just use the cup.
To help this transition go smoother you can also choose cups that are his favorite color or have his favorite characters on them. You can also try giving him the choice between several cups so that he can share some control over the situation. By offering him 2 or 3 cups and letting him pick which one to use he may be more likely to use it.
This article was featured in Issue 47 – Motherhood – An Unconditional Love