Motherhood: A Proud Profession for Life
As far back as I can remember, I always wanted to be a mom…I remember when I was younger I wanted to have six kids. I came close, I had four. I love the saying “Mothering is a proud profession.” I love being a Mom, my kids have taught me so much and continue to do so. I remember when my oldest was born thinking that I couldn’t love anyone more than I loved him. As each child was born, I felt exactly the same way, my love and devotion was there with each child.
When Peyton, my youngest was born, my emotions were even stronger, including feeling a strong sense of protection as well. I could also tell that something was different. I couldn’t place my finger on what was different, but I felt it instinctually. His birth was a hard one, but so were my other kids. Peyton seemed to struggle with things that my other three kids did naturally.
He never seemed to react to my smiles and one-on-one time, as my other kids had done. He never wanted to sleep in his crib, rather, he only wanted to sit in a swing and sleep. I noticed other differences with him too, but wasn’t sure exactly what they meant. When Peyton was diagnosed with Autism, all the pieces fell into place. My “momma bear” personality kicked into overdrive as well. Everyone who knows me, knows how deeply and unconditionally I love all my kids.
I have watched Peyton struggle, and at times, my heart has hurt for him beyond words. He is such a sweet young man and his sweetness is what everyone notices when they first meet him. When other kids his age were talking, he wasn’t, and I would see the hurt and struggle in his eyes. He would get frustrated when he did speak, as he couldn’t convey what he wanted to say. I remember when he would say his prayers every night and always end his prayer with “please help me talk better.” No matter how many times I heard him say it, I always teared up.
Being a Mom, I wanted to wave a magic wand and help him, of course I knew that wasn’t reality. Instead, myself and my three older kids spent countless hours helping Peyton, we bonded together and knew our common goal was, and is, to be his support system. Peyton’s struggles became our struggles, we took on each one and united to help him overcome each bump in the road.
Peyton showed strength taking on everyday issues that each of us so often take for granted. I tried to balance my wanting to fix everything for him, versus knowing he needed to learn on his own. While the struggles were real, so too were the successes. They may have come at a different timeline and effort level than my other kids, they were no less awesome. As his mom, I swelled up with pride as he accomplished each and every hurdle life has thrown at him.
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Peyton is 17, soon to be 18, and I know he has many struggles still to come in his life. I also know this…he is an awesome young man and he wants to succeed in life. His idea of success may not be that of what others define as success, but that’s just fine with me. I have seen my older three kids show Peyton, patience, understanding and most of all, unconditional love. I have seen them defend him and others with autism, without hesitation. My daughter worked at a law firm in which one of the attorneys was autistic.
She not only befriended him, but helped others understand him better. This led to friendships and a better work environment for all. She has also defended autistic adults at other places she worked, when they were bullied. My third child works at an animal shelter and has experiences where he has helped volunteers who are autistic. This has helped with lowering the stress level for all involved. I could see how most employers could benefit from having some type of autism advocate in their workplace. As the mother of an autistic child, their future happiness and security is what concerns me most.
Seeing my older children take their empathy for Peyton and show it to others with autism, these actions makes the “momma bear” so proud. I love my kids and am proud of each of them no matter what they do in their lives, because at the end of the day they have each learned the most important lesson….how to love others unconditionally and without boundaries. I often worried that my focus on Peyton would make them feel left out or angry that we couldn’t do some of the things other kids were doing.
I was a single mom for many years and my older kids had to “step up” and take on responsibilities that many kids their age did not. I now see that those worries were unfounded. They have each grown into caring and responsible adults, Being their mom certainly merits the saying “Mothering is a proud profession.”
Lynne White is a mom of four, her youngest is autistic. She is a 25-year homeschooling mom. With her experience as a grassroots advocate, she has turned that experience and passion into turning autism into ‘awesomism’ by working with businesses as well as individuals to help make the future brighter for autistic teens and adults. To learn more about Lynne, follow her blog at awesomismmom.com or on twitter @awesomismmom, Instagram: @awesomismmom, Flipboard: @awesomismmom, LinkedIn: Lynne Awesomismmom
This article was featured in Issue 62 – Motherhood: An Enduring Love