Are you sick of telling your kids over and over again to do their chores? Are you sick of the fighting and sibling rivalry? What if you could use this rivalry to get chores done?
I call it subcontracting and have been using this tool for more than 20 years. It’s great for ADHD, ASD, and defiant students. One week after using this chart, I have had parents come back to me and say, “I don’t have to even tell them to do their chores because they know their siblings will see it and they will have to pay their sibling to do it or a finder’s fee.” Check out my tool below:
- Put your child’s allowance in a jar on Saturday. $10 for 10 years old, $12 for 12 years old, etc.
- Set chores up for the morning, after school and before bed.
- Set a price for each chore to be paid to a sibling or parent for completing it if the child does not do it 10 minutes before leaving for school, 10 minutes before dinner, or 10 minutes before bed. Siblings can go to a parent if a chore is not done and offer services to complete the chore. If the child does the chore before leaving for school, the child pays half of the fee (finder’s fee) to the responsible sibling. If there is no sibling, the child pays the parent to do the chore.
- $1 for making the bed
- $2 to clean the room
- $.50 per item left on the floor, clothes, cups, bowls, towels, etc.
- $.25 reminder fee for reminding them to do things they can only do themselves: brush teeth, get dressed, be in car on time, etc.
- The child can use the money to pay a sibling or parent to make the bed.
At the end of the week, whatever money is left in the jar is belongs to the child!
This entire program is available with charts and instructions in the StressLess with Defiance program. You can watch half of the program for free at this link: www.totallifecounseling.com/Shop
Here’s a link to a video that is a short promotion for the video and explains the subcontracting – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BNC8uBJcY6w
Adolescent Expert, Jim West, MA, LMHC, President of Total Life Counseling Center and author of the StressLess Series offers expert advice to local and national TV news and schools internationally and provides phone or face-to-face counseling in the Orlando area. Jim is an author, communicator, School Consultant, Nationally Certified and State Licensed Counselor and specializes in counseling for autism spectrum disorder (ASD), attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADD/ADHD) and oppositional defiance disorder (ODD).
He holds Social Skills Groups, Overnight Summer, Spring and Winter Social Skills Camps for ADHD and ASD and Jim has been interviewed for multiple national TV, radio, magazine and newspaper articles. He is president of Total Life Counseling Center and his Total Life approach accelerates the therapeutic and healing process by relating to children, adolescents and adults and incorporating wellness. Jim’s clients travel from all over Florida, England, Georgia, Cayman Islands, Central and South America and the Bahamas as he has been able to treat clients with ASD, ADHD, anxiety, mood disorders, depression and more with FDA approved supplements and dietary modifications. Eighty-five percent of his clients have not needed medication or used less medication than when they first came to Total Life Counseling Center.
This article was featured in Issue 54 – Surviving Family Challenges